Have you ever been turned down for a job or promotion, found yourself in a relationship that has come to an end, or perhaps been turned down when you asked someone that you liked out for a date? If you have then you know that rejection isn’t the best feeling in the world. In fact, if someone says that they don’t care about rejection they are lying.
Rejection sucks and those feelings are going to hurt. Worst of all, there really is nothing that you can do to stop it. The portion of your brain that processes and deals with emotions is automatically linked to your body functions and this means that it is inevitable that rejection is going to make you feel rubbish.
So, how can you deal with this like a grown up? We have put together some of the top tips on how to deal with romantic rejection and have yourself feeling better in no time at all.
- Never take it personally
Now, this can be hard to do, after all, when you have been rejected by someone romantically it is often because there is something about you that they don’t like. However, it is important that you don’t take it personally. It isn’t your fault and it is often something that you cannot change. So, don’t beat yourself up about it. After all, it is their loss, isn’t it?
- Acknowledge your emotions but don’t let them hold you back
Romantic rejection is never going to make you feel good and you’ll likely experience a wide range of emotions including anger, annoyance, fear, abandoned and/or shame. These feelings may arise because you think life’s plan for your relationship wise has been delayed and it isn’t what you wanted. Whatever emotion comes up, good or bad, know that it’s normal when you’ve made a decision to do something that would result in a significant change in your life. And however you feel, don’t judge yourself! Acknowledge what you’re feeling; ask yourself if your thoughts are rational or if they are just old fears talking to you. Then stick to your commitment to be with someone that is good for you in the long run and move on.
- Don’t try to look too much into what they are saying
How many times have you heard people openly wonder what the person who has recently rejected you really means? Probably quite a few times. The trouble with this is that it is open to your interpretation. Instead, try not to look too much into what they are saying and just listen to them, if they say it, then take it that this is what they mean.
- Try to be nice
When you have been rejected it can be all too tempting to say a whole bunch of mean things to the other person, if for no other reason than to make you feel better. Of course, it might make you feel better for a short time, but saying nasty things isn’t likely to make you feel great about yourself. Even if you are feeling angry and hurt about the rejection, try to swallow the sting and be nice.
- Talk it out, but only with people you trust
When you feel low, you may surprise yourself with just how much better you will feel simply by talking about how you feel. The only thing to remember about revealing your feelings is that you should always aim to make sure that you talk to someone who you can trust. After all, revealing your innermost thoughts and feelings shouldn’t be something you throw around to anyone.
- Never make the other person feel guilty
Of course, the reason you feel so down in the dumps is all down to the other person. However, that doesn’t mean that you should ever try and make them feel guilty. Guilt tripping someone is not a good thing to do, not only will it make them feel awful, but it is also going to make you feel bad about yourself too.
- Don’t give yourself time to mope
One of the simplest things that you can do when you have been rejected is to keep yourself busy. If you don’t have time to sit at home listening to sad songs and eating ice cream, then you won’t do it. Which means in no time you will feel a whole lot better about yourself.
As you can see, there are plenty of things that you can do to make sure that you deal with romantic rejection in a much more positive way. Plus, the truth of the matter is that you’re lucky that you’re not in a relationship with someone that doesn’t appreciate you.
Remember whilst it may hurt at the time, you never know who is just around the corner!
Happy dating x